It’s that time of the year when you’re seeing a lot of spooky images all around and hearing plenty of ghost stories. Yup, it’s Halloween!
This occasion is often dotted with creepy costumes and frightening gimmicks, hence reminding us of the fears we have.
So what are you really afraid of? Are these fears getting in the way of your success?
Everybody Has Fears
Many individuals whom you probably look up to or deem successful in life had enormous fears to start with, which they were able to overcome or which had pushed them to do whatever it took to make their dreams come true.
As for those who look like they’re not afraid of anything, the key words there are “look like“. Hehe.
It’s human nature to be scared, especially of the unknown. It’s normal to be frightened when anticipating the negative things that seem so real in our minds even if they have not taken place yet.
What To Do With Your Fears
Many say F.E.A.R. is an acronym for “False Evidence Appearing Real”, which basically sums up what the word actually means.
Fear refers to imagined or anticipated negative outcomes.
Nevertheless, the gripping fear that we often experience can be powerful enough to stop us from going forward toward a better life — forever!
Since fear is an inevitable part of every human being, don’t even dream of getting rid of it. The best way to approach it is to face it and deal with it.
Tip #1: Separate Yourself from Fear.
Whatever you’re afraid of, visualize it in your mind as a separate entity. Imagine it actually leaving your body and moving farther and farther. Picture it getting smaller and smaller until it’s only a tiny dot as compared to you.
Since it’s Halloween, how about coming up with a figure to depict or represent the fear in your mind? For instance, if your greatest fear is rejection, imagine it as a witch saying no to you repeatedly. Prepare the image on a piece of paper that you can simply crumple and hide or throw away whenever the fear is triggered.
These suggestions may seem strange at first, but they’re psychologically sound and are known to be effective.
Tip #2: Question Your Fear.
Maybe you often imagine yourself getting injured in playing a particular sport you’ve always wanted to try. Perhaps you see yourself failing in the business you plan to put up.
Whatever your fears are, remember that these are just imagined or anticipated outcomes.
Ask yourself these questions:
- “Is it real?”
- “What do I have to lose by trying?”
- “What do I have to lose by not trying?”
Tip #3: Celebrate Your Fear.
Well, according to psychologists, this is a good way to acknowledge it instead of avoiding it. After all, before you can conquer any fear, you’ve got to face it head on.
In the book The Big Leap, the author Gay Hendricks says, “The best advice I can give you is to take big, easy breaths when you feel fear. Feel the fear instead of pretending it’s not there. Celebrate it with a big breath, just the way you’d celebrate your birthday by taking a big breath and blowing out all the candles on your cake. Do that, and your fear turns into excitement. Do it more, and your excitement turns into exhilaration.”
Did you know that fear and excitement stem from the same mechanisms within your body? They’re technically the same emotion!
So all you have to do is keep practicing the given advice by Mr. Hendricks and pretty soon you’ll be able to master celebrating your fears and transforming them into something positive.
Tip #4: Replace Fear with Love
Whenever you feel the fear rising within you, turn to something that triggers the feeling of love. It could be something you’re very passionate about that brings out positive emotions in you. It could also be someone who immediately makes you feel safe and happy.
Humans are immensely driven by emotions. And you should know that love is one of the strongest emotions we can feel, perhaps at the same level as fear or at times greater.
When you fill yourself with love and positivity, fear can be blocked or driven away. It works vice versa, though, so be careful.
Fight Fear to Be More
Try applying these tips in order to handle your fears better, and you’ll be surprised at how much more you’ll be able to achieve in life.
You can be so much more. Give yourself that chance.
What’s your biggest fear? Do you have any more ideas on how to deal with fear? Hope you can share some in the comment box below. Thanks!