Success is a journey, not a destination.

A lot of people don’t realize that success is actually the journey itself that involves the potholes and bumpy roads you have to drive through to get to your desired future.

Nevertheless, those with dreams and ambitions have a specific destination in mind. How do you want to live 5 or 10 years from now?

Defining Your Own Success

Success for you may be different than that for your friend or colleague or neighbor. It doesn’t matter. You define your own success.

What is it that you dream of in your relationships, health, finances, career/business life, spirituality, etc.? What will give you the utmost fulfillment? That is your own definition of success. It’s yours and no one else’s.

The 3 Stages

Stage 1: REVERIE

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When you imagine the future you want, you’re filled with hope and excitement. You’re in high spirits, daydreaming of the things you wish to happen in your life.

Reverie is the state of being lost in a daydream. It’s easy to get carried away.

Don’t get me wrong. This is actually good because successful people and expert life coaches teach us to visualize our dreams. But of course you need to know that this is just the first stage of the journey.

Victory is not achieved overnight. So keep dreaming big dreams, but don’t lose your focus. Stay grounded.

Stage 2: REALITY

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When reality bites, it bites hard. Ouch.

Suddenly, hardships strike and challenges rain on you. You snap out of your reverie.

What seemed like such a great business idea is now crumbling before your very eyes. The relationship you thought would save you from past heartaches is not working out as you expected. That investment instrument you’d been so excited about isn’t too promising, after all. Your weight loss efforts appear to be futile.

And on it goes. Reality bites. Disillusionment settles in.

What will you do now? Should you go on and push harder or give up and return to your status quo?

Often this stage is where many career shifters and wanna-be entrepreneurs lose hope, couples end up in divorce, excitement turns into depression, healthy lifestyle aspirants revert back to old habits, and so on.

It’s a painful position to be in. And it may become even more painful if we continue pressing on.

For the majority, it may just be too much to handle. Some individuals will view it as a waste of time and energy. The tendency for most is to give up— because that’s an easier option.

Only the driven, desperate, determined ones will continue the journey.

Stage 3: RESOLUTION

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After getting disenchanted with your dreams and finally facing the harsh reality, you need to come to a decision. Should you try another path leading to your desired destination?

Resolution means “a firm decision to do or not to do something”.  What is your resolution?

When the romance fades and your partner grows old, will you stay committed? When you realize that business entails getting on your knees and dirtying your hands with real hard work without any profit in the initial stages, will you keep on? When your job promotion requires more late nights, will you still want it?

Answers will depend solely on you. You are your own problem and your own solution. But just remember— what you decide may dictate the rest of your life.

Make the decision that will lead you closer to your dreams.

Enjoy the journey! 🙂